Every marriage goes through periods of strain.
By entering marriage counselling couples can recognize and resolve problems within their relationship. In turn this will help to improve and strengthen that relationship further.
To make the most of marriage counselling, start by admitting exactly what you want to get out of it, because while a marriage may be transformed by counselling, so too individual transformation is a common outcome. Marriage counselling usually results in the parties making more informed decisions, improved problem resolution, increased confidence and anxiety reduction.
Often one partner isn’t coming to marriage counselling willingly, so it is very important to make every effort to ensure both parties feel completely at ease and believe that both perspectives have equal importance. Accept in advance that your marriage partner may have a different opinion to you.
Prior to coming to marriage counselling, try these things to improve your marriage:
- Think about what is really important to you.
- Know that compromise and differences of opinion are part of normal life.
- Avoid taking out work or other frustrations on your partner.
- Acknowledge when your partner does something right.
- Spend quality time with your partner.
- Do something nice for your partner, by surprise!
- Take time out if you’re angry – or even count to ten before you launch off, it can really help cool things down.
- Listen to your partner. Be attentive to them.
- Don’t solve a problem when they are venting, it will cause frustration.